Boneyz inspired perceptions !!

January 15, 2010

My child is growing!

Filed under: Its all abt my little one, My precious little Tacloo!!! — bhony @ 9:41 am

A mother is  delighted while seeing her child grows.

A new developmental mile stone or some remarkable changes with a child definitely brings a contented feeling in a mother’s heart.  I am fortunate to have one now.

My child is close to four.

In the past:

For quite some days, I have been tormented with thoughts of my child. He is good.  Yet, he is very mischievous. Unsettling to few other’s eyes.  Rough boy..few named him like this.  That was awful to my ears and leaves a wound behind. When he is triggered, things get worse. I used to talk a lot to him..but dint work. At times, my palm speaks with him to get him under control and to quench my frustration.  That never brought any improvement rather than leaving me down hearted.

He is a good and adorable child.  His academics are wonderful.  He is a good logical thinker. Admits mistakes. Very affectionate. Tantrums are the one which lets him beyond his line.

Now:

I find a marked change within him. He seems to be matured.  Understanding. He could even recollect things.  A lot more improvement with his mischief part. Friendly with others.  He is able to defend himself.  He, Apologizes, Thanks and Appreciate when needed.   Seems like, his restored good part is coming out.

And to add about his emotional part,  he is not a child who carry things to heart.  When he is much much hurt, that travels to his heart and leaves a wound behind.  And he is very well able to let me know the cause of that pain. Good thing with that is, he’s honest enough to admit the mistakes on his part.

A little advise is fine to bring him under control.

I was afraid that,  he might be framed as a bad boy among his friends.  And now, m convinced with the changes in him.

My child is moving ahead…

Thank you Lord for your showers on my child!!

December 25, 2009

Awesome Christmas!

Filed under: 1 — bhony @ 4:03 pm

Christmas Eve..

It sure brings a smile in my face, when i think about it…

We always prefer to attend a midnight mass in the church.  And the weather also favored us by holding up the rain for the night. :)  After dressing up…we planned to take some family pics before leaving home.  And, it came out well. We captured lot of funny pics..

After all the photo session, we left home off to the church. We were early by 1/4 of an hour. Yet the Church is full. We managed to get a single seat. But Sam wouldn’t want to sit.. So i offered the seat for an elderly gentle man n stood behind, looking forward the mass.

The mass begun with… “Christ All Ye Faithful…. wow… Its nice to hear all those christmas songs…and the Gospel was pleasant to my ears.  The mass ended up with peace and we left home carrying the peace.. :)

Back home… we celebrated Jesus’ B’day but cutting a cute lil’ Chocolate Log Cake…while sam singing…”Happy Birthday to Jesus” … :)  Nice time…He did enjoyed the cake…this time with lil manners.. he was patient to have one.  Never mind… Its the B’day of our Prince Jesus Christ… He is sure looking at the lil ones enjoy the day..

And there was a surprise too…

I always believe…the Christmas eve should follow with Christmas gifts from Santa… When i was a child.. i have been told a cute lil story of  Santa.. “The child with a lil Sock”… I was impressed to the core with that story…and strongly believe the Santa’s gifts.

An epitome of the story… ” Once there lived a poor family…a husband, wife and a child.  It was a Christmas time. Mother used to narrate a story to the kid during bed time.. One night the child asked her poor mother, “Mommy, will Santa bring me the gifts this year??”  Cos, every year the child would expect and there is not Santa to deliver the gifts..and no funds for their parents to get one…but this year!?!?! … The kind mother was touched by the child’s question..and she said.. sure Santa would deliver the gifts this year…and hugged her. So, she and her child tied up an old sock in the cot and went to bed..  The day dawns.. When the first drop of sunlight touched the child’s face… she was surprised! .. to see the sock full of gifts.. She ran to her parents to share her happiness… The house was filled with Joy!

The end”

” Whether there is a real Santa or not… the poor parents afford to buy few presents to their lil child in name of Santa :)  ”

I believe it..Sam believes it too..

So i wanted to surprise him too.. When he woke up this morning… he was awed  to see the gifts from Santa :)  He thanked Santa for all those gifts and started unwrapping them…

This poor mother was delighted to see that happiness in her cute lil’s boy’s sparkling eyes…

December 19, 2009

Christmas! Christmas!

Filed under: Delicious thots! — bhony @ 8:44 am

Awaiting for a wonderful Christmas ahead!

Singapore is full of Christmas mood….

Christmas decorations with…Christmas trees…Wreaths….Snowmans…and  Santas…welcoming people everywhere we go.  It sure gives your eyes a pleasant and awesome experience.. People held themselves with Christams purchase.. Decorating their homes with…Cribs and Christmas trees.. Even i had done one…

My kid knows and feels the Christmas this year. Hez eagerly looking forward for the dear Santa Claus!!  (expecting lovely presents..dreaming in his magical world..)  Never forgets to turn on the lights in the Christmas tree :)

Orchard road is a lovely place to stroll and enjoy the Christmas…with all those lovely decorations…and the cute volunteers in their Christmas carols..

Enjoy your Christmas dear ones…

Wish you all a  Merry Christmas !!

December 9, 2009

Changes made..

Filed under: 1 — bhony @ 4:21 pm

Sorry…

I had blocked temporarily to make some changes…
Now, i am back..

November 30, 2009

Pricking incident…

Filed under: Contemplations !!! — bhony @ 8:15 am

I dont know why things around me  goes wrong always these days…

Getting embarrassed …insulted…left with cartloads of pain.   Sometimes,  i feel like…i’m designed to carry all the sufferings. God must be somewhere around watching all these shows.  He enjoys adding insult to injury.  I wish there is a hole in my cart to pass away my sufferings.. or one spare shoulders to share the pain.

I’m terribly upset..n suffering lack of sleep…when i see my child being advised and scolded by an unknown person.  The cause is nothing but behaving a child…a mischievous child.

To the one who took my kid as granted..and dare to talk to my kid with ill words -

“You will understand and suffer my pain…only when your own kid is subjected to one like mine… Getting scoldings from an unknown is not an easy thing for a mother to digest.. “

Even though there is a mistake from the kids part… let the parent know…and you dont have to take the rights on the kid to discipline him.  Party is to enjoy..not to find mistakes with the kids.  Better learn to look into the kids good part. If you couldn’t tolerate… better learn.  Every kid is unique in their own way.  Nobody is a Perfectionist…and in specific..you are not  suppose to talk to my kid in a way you did…thinking…you were trying to help.   Better learn to mind your tongue before talking to someone else kids.

” My kid is not a public property for you to take him as granted… I know how to control my kid… Mind your own business… U SENSELESS  NI.. “

This is not enough for this senseless creature…  M very angry..

This post is to put down my anger… M sorry dear friend,  for,  this is quite harsh.. to express my temper.  Yet i have to do it..cos, there is no way i could express my anger.  And m quite bad…for, when i get hurt…that never leaves my heart…  Unless i give back..

S, there is no hard feelings with you.   M better now..  M sorry my words are very harsh.. This is not to hurt you. Hope you understand.  I will get a cardiac arrest if i dont come out.

God, if you really exist… Grant me serenity to accept things that i cannot change..  And teach my kid to be good when needed.

 

 

October 12, 2009

“Amma…m so tired”….

Filed under: Its all abt my little one, My precious little Tacloo!!! — bhony @ 8:39 am

Sam is sick..

Hez running a viral fever.  Third day on the row.

With all his medicines..he is drowsy…and wants to sleep.  These are the words he often utters… “Amma..m so tired” .. poor lil boy.. Aversed with the medicine..and thrown out twice…Apetite has gone down..

But, gathers up all his energy to watch all his favourite animations in Playhouse Disney.  Free from all his learning part..

With all this, he was uttering during his sleep…” Amma  i dont want… i dont want… i dont want..”…. May be i was there in his dream trying to administer his medicine.   Piqued with curiousity..i went near him and asked..”what u dont want?”… he said,” nothing”…and turned back to sleep… :)   “wink”    He took an effort to answer me even when he is asleep… LOL..

Wish he gets back to normal..love you so much dear..

October 6, 2009

Updates..

Filed under: Its all abt my little one, My precious little Tacloo!!! — bhony @ 10:30 am

Back after a long long ago…

I  dropped here to register few of my lil ones creativity….and  a lot of his mischiefs :)

Since  Sam joined this school…everything went on fine…he enjoyed his schooling…learning curve was shooting up… his appetite was good…and the love towards his teacher was amazing.. Thanks Ms. Reana.  She is one good teacher i had ever seen.. Responsible,  Humble, Strict, Productive and charming… wow..dictionary lack words to describe her.  Unfortunately she had to quit for good reason..her daughter needs her more !!! Understandable :)

There begun everything. Soon as she left.. Sam started missing and expecting her… Though she had informed all the kids that a new teacher is yet to arrive and she will be good, kind and interesting.  She made an effort to make a lovely gift for the kids …with a note..saying, ” Dominic, you are a precious jewel ! Enjoy teaching you ! Missing you ! God Bless ! Ms.Reana 18/08/09″.  How sweet of her !!! :)  Wish i had a teacher like her !!!

Sam was unable to cope up with the substitute teacher…where, the new teacher hadn’t been there yet…God only knows the acceptable and unacceptable reasons… But my kid wasn’t comfortable…started saying..he doesn’t want to go to school..n there was lack of interest towards his learning activities.. It took a while for me to figure out that he wasn’t himself in the class.. And i had to handle to situation very diplomatic..to convince the teacher as well as my kid. It worked !!

Sam had been transferred to the akin Explorer class…where he was suddenly impressed by the teacher.. Ms.Veron.  She is again a good teacher..impressed me as well as my kid.    Its a pleasure to picture the way she handle kids. My son was totally flattered by her..though she doesn’t need to attempt one.. :) My heart lightens when m able to see a raise in his curve again..and  a joy in his face..

Good things to convey…

Sam is getting good at blending…Addition..Now,  even fraction… Better with his coloring…Sorting the words to their family.. and numbers.

With his english speaking part..

He tries and manages to speak english most of the time.. Good effort my boy!! But it comes out with blunders and flaws.. Few of his attempts.. Mommy, i want music on my Kadh… Kadh means ears..He tries to say..he wants to listen to the music.. :)

and other thing…when i asked him to bring his work sheet… he said, ” its down the sofa” :) tried to mean… its under the sofa.. :O

One more thing…when we left home on a very hot day… he happened to describe it as..“Mommy its a Veily day”… Veil is sunny… My God!! LOL… Fun to hear all these… I appreciate his attempts!!  :P

Few of his cranky part…

He stands on both extremes… one minute he behaves as good as..a lovable and adorable child…the next minute he turns wild and drives me crazy.. :(

I find him eccentric at times…adamant by refusing to do his activities…annoys me by not answering when i cry his name…embarrassing while travelling in the bus en route to his school..bewilders  me by attempting things that he doesn’t know at all..displeases when he rattles..and the list goes on.. Other way… he astonishes me by drawing a sheet from the shelf and doing the activity on his own… impressing me with his cleanliness .. like he says, ” i want a tissue to wipe my face”…” i want to use the towel”.. “i want to brush my teeth to get rid of germs”..some times quite contrary..  One minute he is impulsive…and the other minute he is instinctive…

M disheartened at these issues on him..Wish this to be a phase…n he gets across it soon..

Fun part..

When he happened to see a delivery man in Punggol plaza..(the person was wearing a jacket and tracks with his helmet on..as it was a rainy day)…suddenly he yelled, ” Mommy, look ASTRONAUT !!!!!! “ ….we break out to laugh… Oh my God!!! He made me laugh to the core… my sweet sammy… Enjoyed the day!!!!

September 11, 2009

Curiosity..

Filed under: Its all abt my little one, My precious little Tacloo!!! — bhony @ 8:39 am

M here today with my discoveries on an inquisitive mind of my lil one..

I wonder how the curiosity of the lil brain develops.. Symptom is.. Questions!!!!   Bugging us with questions..”Mommy whatz this?”… “Mommy, whats that?”  ” how do u know that” “When n whys”…

The  desire to learn just come upon as they bud… Sam at the age of 2, started identifying alphabets, numbers and basic shapes.  It all happened suddenly and unexpectedly..Cos i tried to figure it out to him quite a while ago before he reached two.  But he never bothered to listen.  I was impatiently longing..but later i realised the child must attain the age to learn certain things.. So, i left things to his choice and started following his interests.

I captured an interesting quality in him.  He expects more and he has his own way of perception..ofcourse every kid has its own way of perceiving things.. When he learned the basic shapes (triangle, square, rectangle and circle)…and whenever i ask him to identify those shapes…he gets fuzzy and asks me for more shapes..”whats next?” will be his question.  To move inorder to activate…i had darted with few more shapes which includes…sphere, hemisphere, semi circle, spiral, cube, cuboid, pyramid, pentagon, hexagon, diamond, and few like this… He expressed interest in such things  and very much capable of learning shortly… And he started relating those shapes with other things wherever he goes…

As days pass by..he started building his vocabulary…and he showed interest in doing worksheets.. which has counting, matching..and finding the odd one…Since he doesn’t know to write…he did these kind of activities…he loves coloring. And when he crossed 3 years, he started drawing pictures of car, bus, sun, moon and stuffs like that…and suddenly he made me dumbfound by writing alphabets on his own.. Actually, he started tracing the alphabets what his dad tried to make it out from him…then he attempted to draw the alphabet as it is…quite a gud try! The next 2 or 3 days he was drawing the alphabets not knowing the actual sequence of the strokes. With lil assistance he picked up writing the alphabets.. I was so happy  seeing him writing the alphabets.. This happened so with numbers…

Parallely he learned the phonics of the alphabets..which comes online thru starfall.com.  Which helps him now with his word building… Now, he tries to read and spell those three letter words… He attempts to read any new word that is with 3 or 4 letters regardless it is right or wrong.

He surprised me by reading “Ang Mo Kio“… Its a place in Singapore. Though he cudn’t make it out completely.. He read that “Ang Mo Ko“…But thats fine… He is growing..

Coloring has become one of his favourite these days… He used to scribble meaninglessly…now, he is trying to keep the colors inside the borders..though he needs lil practice.

He is able to manisfest his academic side wisely…M happy abt his growth..

Apart from his academic side…he shows some evidence of socialising with people…and a little interest in conversing with people over phone…and i believe that is developed from his dear friend Yuvan…which i feel happy abt it..Thanks dear Yuvan.

Children surprise us by qualifying with their milestones…

M happy he is moving on..Love you sammy..

August 14, 2009

Getting well…

Filed under: Bulletin !! — bhony @ 10:05 am

Its been one whole week…

We all three got sick.. It was my esteemed hubby who brought home the seeds of the illness.  Never to worry..for we are not pushed into the outbreak.  My hubby got alright in 4 days and he gratefully passed it to me and my lil son.. I was suffering fever and throat pain..and got ready within 2 days.  The weakness still persists..but it will soon fade off.. It was Sam who hasn’t yet come out of the cold..and he took off to school for a week…Poor fellow…missed Miss.Reana’s class.  I believe he will be alright in a day or two.

So..all 3 safe… :)

will soon be in better shape for the blogging business :)

July 21, 2009

Montessori experience in India..

Filed under: Contemplations !!! — bhony @ 10:44 am

M here to unroll a particular instance which i have personally encountered during my visit to India.

Its about my kid who is 2 and 3/4 years old at the time of January 2009.  We had relocated to India for a short span of 5 months.  Hence, i decided to put him in a Montessori school nearby.  I was very specific with a Montessori school becos i want him to be taken care with great attention. There were plenty to say…n i chose “Kids Galaxy”, owing to the unavailability of seats  with the much impressed montessori schools…n i found it comparitively better with the available ones.   At the time of enrollment, i had to settle around Rs. 3200 as term fees and Rs.1000 as registration fees.  This is quite a high emolument in Indian standards for a pre-school.

Before i move further, i wud like to give an account of my child’s interest in school.  My child is born in India and brought to Singapore at the age of 4 and half months. I opine he enjoyed his milestone developements himself by learning and admiring things around him.  So, i decided when he is at the age of 20 months i shd put him in a play school.  And it worked. The very first day when i took him to the play school…he was literally eager to allow him inside…enjoyed the new environment. That made me to conceive that he will not be aversed to school…when i put him in the montessori in India.  Contrarily, when i left him in Kids Galaxy for the first day…he was happy to be in..but when i went to fetch him…i cud see him taken aback.  He cried for the first time being in school.  I just thot..it might be due to the environment…and made his mind to get prepared for the next day.  Surprisingly, the night before his second day school…he tried to convince me saying he doesn’t want to go to school. Days went by….and i cud never regain his confidence in school.

As a mother, i was unable to withdrew him from school…just as he says.  I needed some time to analyse abt his progress and rule out what bothers him in the school.  His rejection initially was…he wasn’t received by a teacher…a maid in the school receives the children.. Its a routine. My God! I’m totally against it..since i have a feeling always that, when a child personally received by a teacher..will have a gud tactility and affection towards the teacher aswellas the school.

Secondly, there were around twenty kids for a teacher and their learning goes in a group through out the period of 3 hrs. Not much individual attention, lacking with their creative part.  Parent’s aren’t aware of the montessori materials (i have been told they are using montessori materials..but i haven’t seen one…eventhough i had an orientation with the school..and i was particularly told there wasn’t any refreshment classes).  Whenever i ask my child, “what did u learn today in school?” he says “Alphabets”…And he is a kid..so i cud not much rely on him…perhaps he cud not remember things appropriately to update me..Alphabets might be the part of their lesson everyday..So, whenever i chk with the teacher, she says he learned counting..they did worksheets…dancing and colouring..a piece of craft…listening to rhymes and stuffs… M truely unsatisfied.. (Becos, my child was well aware of identifying alphabets, numbers from 1 – 10, basic shapes ..and colors at that age. And his vocabulary is quite good aswel). What is the point in making him learn the same alphabets n numbers? Sure i wud expect some new things they do with the same. They give a worksheet every weekend as a homework…which contains matching or counting or coloring or stuffs like that… Sometimes he did that correctly…n when it comes for counting and stuffs..at that age he found it difficult to accomplish…i did took an effort to teach him several ways…but he rather found it difficult…and i dont want to proxy him for the worksheets.   So i came to a conclusion that he needs some time to consummate. But when i return his worksheets on monday…and inform the teacher that he cud not complete … cos he is unable to understand…she never agrees…rather she says he did that in class. Then asked me to wait for the parent teachers meeting that falls on the first monday of every month.

The parent-teachers meeting happened to be a real bull shit. I was expecting a lot abt his academic side and his progress rather than all those excursion discussion and those extracurricular activites for parents..Its a mere waste of time.. Those activites can be issued thru a circular.. I was worried i cudn’t gather updates on my child..other than the same response from the teacher.  I waited until the end of the term for the “Open day” which was the actual parent-teacher meeting in their language.  I was given a file which remarks with his skills.. n that was very consise. I was taken lil aback with that progress report, cos it was remarked in a way..that wasn’t cognizance with my child.  I know where my child stands..but the report was there to impress me rather than his actual progress.  I asked for the worksheet he had done at school..but there was none. They handed me a creative book which contains making pictures out of cotton, sand and stuffs like that…which he had already got used in his playschool in Singapore.    I wasn’t expecting much progress from the child as i know him academic wise to my knowledge…though he was quite on and off to the school becos of his health reasons,  he is real gud in picking up things ….but i wanted to know what kind of creative part he learns from the school that he hadn’t experienced from my side.. I believe they are answerable to me…since m paying high..i do expect much.

I wouldn’t say they dont have creative part at all. But they lack with it. Learning a rhyme and identifying alphabets and numbers everyday wudn’t be challenging for a child. Definitely a child needs more when he does masters with it.  I believe they dint extend them with the practical and sensorial part.

Its been displayed as sophisticated..but actually not.  I have been smothered with this and that…but deluded. Until the last day of his school, he wasn’t happy enough to pop into the school…he embraces me tightly whispering “never let me in” with tears rolling out his cheeks.  But i know he doesn’t cry the whole day..somehow he gets accomodated to the place.  But, sure therez scarcity in his volition.

This lack of observant care was much bothering me… According to me that wasn’t a montessori school to be contemplated.  I consider study of teaching methods, including the aims of education and the ways in which such goals may be achieved.   I count on the educational psychology about the way in which learning takes place.

Its widely known that, using the Montessori approach to teach is extremely challenging, but equally exciting and rewarding.   And i have learned, Montessori schools have proven successful all over the world, with all kinds of children (blind, gifted, learning disabled, wealthy, poor, etc.) and in many different environments. I believe the Montessori system is based on belief in children’s creative potential, their drive to learn, and their right to be treated as individuals.

I have been depressed, cos i put lot of effort on him with his academic side at home and the school lacks with it.   I suppose, the child learns a lot from school or outside home than from a mother.  How could i prevail on these kind of schools.

The worst part of all is..he trembles with fear when i utter a word abt “Kidz Galaxy”.  M back in SG now. I have enrolled him in a montessori school here..n i found him scared to go to school for the first two days becos of his aversion to school.  On the way back home on his second day school..he said, “Mummy i like the school” , “I will not cry tomorrow” “and i like the teacher”.  M happy he is tailored with care.  Now he enjoys every bit of his schooling.  He even asks me why is he not sent to school on weekends.

My earnest gratitude for the teachers in his SG school.

I sincerely advise the parents to run thru the schools with their literacy before enrolling their child and carefully heed their children.

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